The Dance of Connection
How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate
Harriet Lerner
- Bestselling
- author
- Harriet
- Lerner
- focuses
- on
- the
- challenge
- and
- the
- importance
- of
- being
- able
- to
- express
- one's
- "authentic
- voice"
- in
- intimate
- relationships.The
- key
- problem
- in
- relationships,
- particularly
- over
- time,
- is
- that
- people
- begin
- to
- lose
- their
- voice.
- Despite
- decades
- of
- assertiveness
- training
- and
- lots
- of
- good
- advice
- about
- communicating
- with
- clarity,
- timing,
- and
- tact,
- women
- and
- men
- find
- that
- their
- greatest
- complaints
- in
- marriage
- and
- other
- intimate
- relationships
- are
- that
- they
- are
- not
- being
- heard,
- that
- they
- cannot
- affect
- the
- other
- person,
- that
- fights
- go
- nowhere,
- that
- conflict
- brings
- only
- pain.
- Although
- an
- intimate,
- long-term
- relationship
- offers
- the
- greatest
- possibilities
- for
- knowing
- the
- other
- person
- and
- being
- known,
- these
- relationships
- are
- also
- fertile
- ground
- for
- silence
- and
- frustration
- when
- it
- comes
- to
- articulating
- a
- true
- self.
- And
- yet
- giving
- voice
- to
- this
- self
- is
- at
- the
- center
- of
- having
- both
- a
- relationship
- and
- a
- self.
- Much
- as
- she
- did
- in
- THE
- MOTHER
- DANCE,
- Lerner
- will
- approach
- this
- rich
- subject
- with
- tales
- from
- her
- personal
- life
- and
- clinical
- work,
- inspiring
- and
- teaching
- readers
- to
- speak
- their
- own
- truths
- to
- the
- most
- important
- people
- in
- their lives.
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